For the Days You Need a Hug

+ see my narcissistic side.

Hi friend,

Lately, I’ve come to realise that it’s not just a hug that feels warm and fuzzy enough to make you feel comforted. It’s many acts.

I’m typing this from my blanket.

I know it’s ‘unproductive’.

I know it isn’t recommended.

But I’m doing okay, and it’s comfortable. It feels good. It’s been slightly chilly all day and being in my blanket feels like a hug, especially when I’m alone.

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There’s something about

• watching dog and baby bonding videos

• friends who get your vibe instantly

• sipping warm coffee with a book

• your partner holding your face

• treating yourself occasionally

• your grandma cooking for you

• your mom’s touch

That makes you feel like everything in the world is alright. You don’t need anything more, anything less.

It can come to a standstill.

And it’ll be okay.

You’ll be okay.

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But it’s difficult, right?

I recently gifted myself something for my birthday (which is next month, so the ‘birthday’ is an excuse to brush off an expensive purchase).

I spent an hour feeling guilty about it.

I don’t even shop or buy things. Most of my clothes are old, and it’s after nearly 4+ years that I’ll be buying new dresses because I can no longer steal my mum’s as I don’t stay with her anymore.

I barely eat out.

I’m on my way to reducing alcohol to at most two drinks a month, and preferably none.

And I invest like crazy.

I was STILL guilty, of spending my money and treating myself to something fine.

And then Jai and my best friend, Nikki, told me how I’m overthinking this purchase and should feel good instead as I’ll be using it a lot.

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What I’m trying to say is, I encourage you to

• preach kindness to your body as you preach it on your stories

• take out time to do what makes you feel like a warm hug

• work from your blanket if that’s what you wish

• communicate when things aren’t working out

• make yourself your favourite tea

• just do you, okay?

Because hugs are good, hugs make you happy.

But I’m too awkward to ask for them and I think it’s creepy to just go and give a friend a big, big hug.

(I’m weird, I know).

Getting back to hugs making you happy, do ‘em more often because you deserve to be happy.

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My Narcissistic Side

I record YouTube videos thinking about the reader, and the value they’ll gain from it. But I uploaded a video this week shamelessly blabbering about myself. It’s all about why I’m on YT.

I know you’re probably too busy for this but just putting it out there if it appeals to you:

And there’s one I uploaded a few days ago preaching about how reactive we’ve become:

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I’ll see you next week.

Love,

N