Happy Birthday to Me

I'm 27 today!!!

Hi friend,

I’m officially ‘late twenties’.

Is this the time I must start taking in collagen and do some special skincare? Am I too old to visit a 3-day-long musical concert? I don’t even know if I’m more millennial or Gen-Z because I miss the Gen-Z mark by one year!

So much in my head.

Okay, let’s get started with what I went to tell you today. I’d love it if you could tell me if it made you feel something.

Alsoooo, till Sunday midnight IST I also have a birthday sale on all my products. You can go to my website and use the code BIRTHDAY. I also released my LinkedIn course with parity pricing so it’s more affordable for those in India, you can check it out here and use the same coupon code.

Alsooo (I know I did it the second time), I’m so kicked that I’m going to start my week tomorrow by kicking off my course Summit 21 AND being a student in Peak Performance Program.

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I’m 27 today. Here’s what I wish I knew in my early twenties…

1/ Society, especially in the part of the world I come from, has laid out certain rules to assure success. Let me burst your bubble — *nothing* can assure success. Not even those ‘safe paths’

2/ Others’ definition of success doesn’t need to be yours. This brings me to the next point…

3/ Knowing your success metrics will put you in the top 1%. Most people are chasing empty metrics, they don’t look within to see what makes them truly happy. Fun fact: you get to define your own metrics.

4/ Being aware of your inner chatter and moulding it in your favour can be your biggest element of transformation. When your mind makes up its mind, there’s no giving up. You’ll unleash what you didn’t know existed.

5/ We talk and read too much about money. But we rarely want to

• put in the work

• create something valuable

• stay committed for long enough

And that’s why some of us will always just keep reading about money, instead of making it happen.

6/ When low, do this with your emotions: • accept • embrace • let it pass • realise its impermanence • add a dash of optimism to this process

7/ Meditation doesn’t make life easier. It only enables you to deal better with the challenges.

8/ Your parents are ageing. Your grandparents are ageing. One regret I’ll always carry is not visiting my grandparent’s home before they sold it because I was a reactive teenager and just didn’t want to. My grandad fell terribly sick a year later and everything changed. He got a brain stroke that left him mute and half-paralysed for 5 years thereafter. All his fun plans of moving into the same city as me and holidays we’ll have vanished.

9/ Seeing a cremation for the first time a year ago taught me that we stay so long on this planet, meet people, work hard, and then everything just… goes. We vanish into thin air. Nothing matters — what you have, what you believed in — nothing. Only your people do.

10/ Value your people. The pandemic taught me that I don’t have time for superficial relationships anymore. I want to guard my time and protect my energy fiercely. If somebody doesn’t serve your energy, they’re not worth it.

11/ I suddenly made way more money when I quit my job. 3–6x my corporate income goal too. But it stopped mattering as much. It didn’t make life 3–6x better. Diminishing returns is truly a thing.

12/ The pillars of happiness remain the same,

• health

• family time

• to do things you love

Nothing can buy it. Sometimes I feel so many millionaires get into drugs/ are unhappy because they prioritised a superficial metric over these pillars.

13/ Effort every single day with the right attention, a pure heart, and an aim to serve others — is an unbeatable combination. To do this, you have to be aligned with your real self. Most of us have lost this ability in today’s hyperstimulated world. Your answers lie within.

14/ Stop thinking of what others will think. I’ve spent most of my life being conscious and low on self-esteem. It sucks. Working on this set me free. I felt like I could fly. And since then, I have been.

15/ Love without ego, limitlessly, unconditionally. If it gets hampered by petty ego games, there’s a problem. Let’s not let technology and social norms take the purity out of this purest form of emotion. It’s what people crave, and people have died for.

16/ Your

• marks

• bullies

• failures (lessons)

• embarrassing moments

• what others said to make fun of you

Define nothing. Not your personality, not your success, or your future. Set yourself free.

17/ Nobody is coming to save you. Nor is the world after you to make you miserable. Be your best friend and your first love.

18/ You aren’t your emotions. Don’t put yourself in a bucket and confine your persona by making that emotion your definition and an extension of who you are. You’re more than that,

19/ You are the universe and an entire universe is inside you. Don’t be afraid to dream, and do what your heart says

20/ That crazy idea and those random gut feelings — listen to them. Most people suppress them because they’re trapped in fulfilling societal expectations. Don’t. You only get to live once.

See you next week :)

Love,

N

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Once again, here’s more info about my Birthday Sale.

• You can go to my website and use the code BIRTHDAY.

• I also released my LinkedIn course with parity pricing so it’s more affordable for those in India, you can check it out quickly here and use the same coupon code.