Hi friend,
I type this newsletter inspired by a conversation with a friend.
I was on a holiday the last few days with my girlfriends for my bachelorette/hen party. It’s been a lot of fun with fresh seafood, sea views, and beautiful sunset skies.
One day, I even saw a sunset and a rainbow at the beach at the same time. It looked unreal!
Now, cutting to the chase…
Ditch that ex.
And no, I don’t mean an ex-partner. I mean ex anything - everything and everybody that no longer serves you and is an energy depleter.
For me, old clothes and accessories are enormous energy depleters. If I haven’t worn something in the last 4 years, chances are I won’t be wearing it anytime soon.
+ it’s a waste of cupboard space.
So I donate them because they can help somebody else out there.
Those of you who know me for a year also know that I let go of lots of friends after my knee surgery.
This is because if somebody is there during my happy times yet they cannot even leave a text to check up on me during the 4 weeks when I was in pain, aren’t they a waste of space?
For everyone who doesn’t bother to wish you on your birthday, even though texting takes only a hot 5 seconds, are they really your ‘good friends’?
But most of us are so attached to old memories that we hold on to old clothes and people even when they don’t match our energy.
Worse - deplete it.
My Friend is In Love
My friend, let’s call her A (because it’s the first alphabet and that’s how original I am lol) was talking about being in love with someone who she’s ended things with, doesn’t see a future with, and cannot spend her life with.
Now, because I love her, I told her to cut ties.
When all routes have a red flag, must we take that path? When we know it goes downhill, must we go down that lane?
Cutting ties is painful.
Cutting people is painful.
Throwing away old photos of people who have hurt you is painful.
Trying to get rid of memories is painful.
Until… it is no longer painful. But to reach there, you have to deal with the pain - just a little longer.
Why Am I Telling You This?
Because so many of us want more from life. And we want that:
without taking any new action
without cutting off what’s holding us back
How can we expect monumental changes doing absolutely nothing differently? That doesn’t make any sense, does it?
Everything around me drastically improved when I cut down junk - and not just in terms of food. It includes social media, how I consume information online, my intentions, being conscious of my energy, and letting go of energy depleters.
My Favourite Article
I published 5 Habits I Stole from These 5 Countries which I loved writing, and I guess people loved reading too.
Btw, I publish all my articles on Medium (417+ as of now). So if you love what I write and want to read from hundreds of other talented writers, you can join Medium using my referral link.
Reading on Medium changed my life, this is the place I was scrolling on two years ago when I was bored at work and thought, “hey, people make a living out of what they love.”
And the rest is history 😉
Watch My YouTube Videos
I published something which you may enjoy (at least I hope you do, hehe).
The first one is probably the most difficult video I’ve recorded. I hope this helps somebody out there who needs to hear this.
This too is derived from my own experience :)
I’ll see you next week.
Love,
N
Thankyou for your insights- I enjoy them and your brave intelligence. I would say however that we must all be careful about throwing away people. This is especially so if it is your family. Estrangement is incredibly painful and often done from a stance of anger and reaction. People who love you make mistakes just as you do. Forgiveness is the better option. Throwing out people can cause so much pain that really should not be inflicted. Be kind when judging less you will be harshly judged too.
It’s empowering to throw out clothes and things that are just taking up space. People…that’s more difficult. It’s best to just slowly let it go.