The *Most* Important Thing in Life

Nothing works without this.

Hi friend,

Firstly, thank you to all those who congratulated me for my engagement 💍 in my previous newsletter.

Yes, it was a typo, it took place on January 13, 2022* and not 2021. I guess writing 2022 will take a bit of practice?

Secondly, telling you what I’m going to tell you today is a thought that struck my mind earlier this week.

I can’t wait. Let’s start right in!

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What if I told you that none of your goals will be attainable without this one thing?

No matter what you do, a part of you will be devoid of happiness without this.

And regardless of what you achieve, you’ll experience a part of you missing.

Trust me when I say this for I thought I have it all figured out. A triple major undergrad, a postgrad from England, and a job in a multinational. I used to work out, meditate, and write my gratitude journal (I still do).

I was working in digital transformation and was sure that I will be able to travel the world with this role. In another decade and a half, I’d be a Vice President earning well with a few thousand dollars of stocks.

My company and role were such. It felt like a perfect trajectory.

Sure, I felt miserable at work when I had to do things I don’t enjoy and when some senior would be mean just because they can (I’m extra sensitive and I’m ok with that). But everybody told me that everybody goes through this.

“The initial years are always hard,” people say.

Things change.

And no, I won’t tell you a quit your 9-5 and pursue your passion story because that’s stupid.

I’m going to tell you something which I promise you will change your life if done right.

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We live at a time when things are normalised just because everybody else is doing it.

When I was in England, smoking was as normal as drinking water. Now, scrolling and wasting our time away is normal because everybody is doing it. It’s okay to scroll away our precious time that we’ll NEVER get back. Slow claps to that.

The thing is if you’re alive and breathing, you’re here for a reason.

In this entire process where you keep in touch with everybody and meet new people online who you may not meet in real life - you’ve forgotten to find YOU.

I assure you that the day you find yourself, you’ll never have to

• find your purpose

• improve your productivity

• find sources of happiness

Because you’ll have it all figured out automatically.

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Self-awareness is the secret sauce to anything you want to chase.

You don’t make money by wanting to make money, you make money by solving a problem and adding value.

You don’t get a partner to feel complete, you get one when you’re wholesome and can be complemented.

You don’t get to find your purpose by looking for it, the purpose comes to you when you know yourself and understand the one thing that fulfils your soul.

I realised my purpose wasn’t to use my job to lead me to wealth, a designation, or happiness.

My soul is divine when I’m helping others improve their lives.

It’s always been - from writing a blog when I was 18 to help others lose weight to writing on Quora at 20 to running an Instagram account to help educate others on health and travel to writing on Medium.

The problems I was trying to solve for is different, from health to travel to writing and self-improvement

But it’s always been this, I just didn’t know it.

How do you find yourself? By doing this one thing we rarely do - spend time. Be on your own, stay with your thoughts, observe your thoughts, spend time doing things you enjoy, alone. Meditate for just 3 minutes if not 10.

Do this every day for weeks and months. You will notice a change.

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You won’t come back to this world again.

It’s just one chance at life.

If you’re here, you might as well make it worth it.

It all begins by knowing yourself.

If you’ve read it so far, I’m grateful that you’re devoting a fraction of your finite time to me.

Love, N

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PS - My course Summit 21 is starting its third cohort from Feb 14 - March 07. Check it out here and hit reply if you have any questions :)